exposing ES mean girls @saraerica#9819155 and @lueur#141833 for exactly who they are
CW/TW: racism, bullying, micro aggressions, multiple instances of gaslighting and manipulation, mentions of drinking , use of the f-slur
I’m not going to out my user or anyone else’s involved, however it may be obvious by the time you’ve made it to the end. Please be respectful of the fact they are left out for a reason. There is a lot to be said and to unpack, there will not be a tl;dr, read all the way through, it will provide you with a better picture.
I know this may come as no surprise to many of you, but @saraerica (Sara) and @lueur (Lulu or Bri) are not nice people. When I first became “friends” with them it was so exciting to be a part of a group. They were very welcoming and even made the game feel more fun for a bit. That only lasted until it became obvious they will create issues with absolutely any one that doesn’t agree with them, by that point they only continued being nice if you participated in their antics. Now I want to apologize to so many of you for ignoring or partaking in their bullying, manipulating, and gaslighting. I realized I did not want to be or be associated with those kinds of miserable fucking humans. I hope if you were ever victim to their narcissism you find validation throughout this. Nobody thinks more highly of Sara than herself, except maybe her lap dog. Bri barks while backing you into a corner and Sara bites with her superiority complex. According to her, she is always right with an opinion that everyone should agree with.They are quick to attack, criticize, and add in their two cents where they weren’t asked for it (even when their opinions were specifically not asked for). This will start with discussing the most recent incident and then diving into the multitude of nasty things they’ve done or said.
‼️All blocked out parts of the ss below are to avoid any further discourse and discomfort the original topic created. Leave opinions on products or conversations meant for black people TO black people‼️
If you’ve read through the pictures so far, it should be clear the only thing Sara even cared about was being right, there was no real concern about how she made her “friend” feel. It should have ended after “I’m sorry we made you feel that way” not followed up with a however, that’s not how proper apologies work.
Again, the point that a boundary was crossed was ignored. Instead of acknowledging she had a piss poor take that wasn’t even hers to have (the product in question isn’t meant for non-black people!!!), she took a stab at the person’s intelligence (“we were stating common knowledge”). So far all you have seen is what many of us felt was Sara gaslighting the person about the entire situation. Not included between these and the next images are other users from the chat responding to the last message above. They aren’t relevant to the big picture.
To be as clear as possible, no one was putting words in anyone’s mouth. Everything that was pointed out and said by “Bird” (right side messages) was directly based upon things that continued being discussed after she had set her boundary.
lueur enters chat
Did not miss a beat to yet again take a jab at a black woman’s intelligence and try to sweep past blatant racism and micro aggressions (ie - telling Bird she was being “rude” and going out of their way to make her seem aggressive when she had already expressed she was upset). They continue acting obtuse and try to push “just moving on”, still with no intent to take accountability at that point. Sara had also gone quiet and the wild “this isn't about a white person trying to prove their superiority over a black person” remark still remains unaddressed. When I tell y’all my flabbers were gasted reading that in real time, I mean it.
It’s obvious others in the GC were picking up what Bird was putting down. There was still not a single acknowledgement about how when it was brought to their attention again, they did exactly the same thing they did before. Y’all didn’t need to “explain yourselves further “, y'all needed to jump off the defensive and realize you were just wrong. It’s 2024, we’re not still talking over black voices about things that directly impact them 🗣️
*I am baffled, how was it misinterpreted when it could not have been said more clearly? Bird was extremely direct from the start when the boundary was set. Bri does attempt to apologize in the first picture above but everything preceding had already left a bad taste. Neither hesitated to repeatedly bulldoze the boundary again until more of us spoke out against it.After those SS the GC continued with Bri trying to completely change the topic and brush off the seriousness of what had been said. Majority of the chat said nothing because the atmosphere was no longer the same and we didn’t feel safe. The ignorance towards Bird didn’t stop after that, though. In another chat with the three of them, where they were organizing an event for on-site, a whole new situation was instigated by Bri. This occurred one day after Bird addressed the whole GC. Things had not been left on good terms and there was no indication that Bird was ready to move past what they had said.
Bird is well aware that she was being short and could have handled that differently, but at the time wasn’t interested in engaging. Sara will later excuse Bri’s behavior to Bird and others with the fact Bri had been
some real fake ass customer service type shit, can’t even give everyone a consistent sob story. Your private apology was the bare fucking minimum. So tell me, why can Bri act like this because of the consequences of her own actions when you guys harassed someone in another GC for unfriending you after telling her YALL ARENT FRIENDS?? Make it make sense. Also, since when does treating your friends with decency mean you’re owed anything from them?? Being nice and expecting someone to blindly follow you isn’t actually being nice. Not a single one of us received that apology Sara was so insistent Bri was going to give. I’ll assume that doesn’t come as much of a surprise to anyone, though.
If you’ve made it this far you’ve made it through what I’d consider to be the worst of it, it doesn’t even put a dent in the times they’ve crossed the line and made others uncomfortable though.
It was mentioned above that they harassed a user in a GC that chose to unfriend them after Sara told her she doesn’t consider them friends. It was definitely said as it was to be personal, she was proud of saying it and took every shot she had to belittle this individual.
In the past she had used this person’s appearance on multiple occasion to speak negatively on them when she had an issue, instead of communicating like a gRoWn adult.
To this user, I can prove Sara and Bri were the only ones to comment on the way you look. I’m not proud to have watched silently but I think that’s some insecure bitch energy and do not partake in it. You are a beautiful person /gen
context for top picture - it isn’t important, Hitler jokes are never funny. He is directly correlated to the persecution and genocide of approximately 6 million European Jews. A member in the chat that is German was extremely taken aback by the comment.
context for bottom photo - this message was an unprompted reply to a trans individual in our GC, it was almost immediately deleted and excused by her using the “well I’m bi” card. The person did not take it as a joke and didn’t feel safe enough to call her on it.